Hiding Behind Social Media: The Facade of Malaysian Civility
Hiding Behind Social Media: The Facade of Malaysian Civility #
Scroll through your feed. What do you see? A symphony of Malaysian virtue. Endless #BeKind hashtags. Heartfelt prayers shared. Environmental pleas. Calls for unity against discrimination. Touching birthday tributes to acquaintances they barely acknowledge offline. It’s a digital utopia of courtesy, empathy, and enlightened citizenship. Then, step outside. Welcome to the reality check.
Malaysia, we’ve become masters of the Social Media Mirage – projecting a shimmering oasis of civility online while our real-world behaviour often resembles a mamak stall during a roti canai shortage. The disconnect isn’t just ironic; it’s a corrosive national hypocrisy.
Witness the Duality:
- The #Blessed Bully: Posts inspirational quotes about kindness daily. Then, transforms into a horn-honking, lane-weaving, expletive-screaming demon the moment traffic slows by 0.5 km/h. Road rage isn’t just impatience; it’s the mask of online civility violently ripped off.
- The Eco-Warrior (Convenience Edition): Shares viral videos of turtles choking on plastic, demanding bans on straws. Later, casually tosses a nasi lemak bungkus out the car window because “the bin was full lah” or simply couldn’t be bothered. Performance activism, zero commitment.
- The Birthday Hypocrite: Writes a novel-length, effusive Facebook post for an acquaintance’s birthday, complete with 17 heart emojis. Sees them in person the next day? A grunt, maybe a cursory “eh”. The online grand gesture replaces genuine, consistent connection.
- The Keyboard Compassion Cult: Preaches tolerance, rails against discrimination in passionate online essays. Then, sits silently (or worse, chuckles) when racist, sexist, or homophobic “jokes” fly at the office lunch or family gathering. Real courage evaporates offline.
- The Queue Saint: Might share a post about queue-cutting being rude. Stands in an actual line? Masters the art of passive-aggressive sighing and furious phone-tapping while someone brazenly cuts in front, utterly incapable of uttering a simple, firm “Excuse me, the line starts back there.”
Why is this facade so damaging?
- It Devalues Genuine Kindness: When everyone’s performing virtue online, real acts of offline decency get lost in the noise. Authenticity becomes suspicious.
- It Fosters Complacency: Posting a nice thought feels like doing something. It absolves the guilt of not acting kindly, patiently, or responsibly in the tangible world. Likes become moral credit.
- It Erodes Accountability: Hide behind the curated profile. The online persona is flawless; the offline actions require no explanation or change. It’s a perfect escape hatch from personal responsibility.
- It Breeds Cynicism: We know it’s fake. We see the same people preaching online grace being utterly graceless offline. It makes us distrust all online expressions of goodwill, even the sincere ones.
- It Stunts Real Growth: True civility, tolerance, and environmental care require consistent, often inconvenient, offline action and courage. Hiding behind the screen lets us avoid the hard work of actually changing our behaviour and confronting uncomfortable truths in real-time interactions.
Social media isn’t the problem; it’s the mask. We use it to craft a better version of ourselves – one conveniently detached from the messy, impatient, sometimes selfish humans we actually are in the queues, the traffic jams, the offices, and the mamaks. It’s easy to be a saint when you control the narrative and the audience.
But civility isn’t measured in likes or shares. It’s measured in how we treat the unseen server, whether we let that car merge, if we actually use the bin, if we speak up against casual bigotry when it costs us social capital, and if we have the guts to politely call out a queue-cutter instead of just fuming online later.
Put down the phone. Step away from the carefully curated feed. Let’s focus less on projecting an image of Malaysian budi bahasa online and more on genuinely practising it, consistently and courageously, face-to-face in the gloriously chaotic, frustrating, real Malaysia. That dusty teh tarik stain on your shirt from a real conversation is worth infinitely more than a thousand perfectly filtered #Kindness posts. The facade is cracking. Time to show our real faces – hopefully, the kinder ones.