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“Don’t Follow the Flow”? Spare Me Your Dead Fish Philosophy

“Don’t Follow the Flow”? Spare Me Your Dead Fish Philosophy

Stop. Just stop. Another LinkedIn guru posts this tired cliché—"Only dead fish go with the flow!“—as if they’ve cracked the code to human greatness. They frame it as rebellion, as wisdom, as a call to arms against mediocrity. It’s not. It’s lazy, arrogant nonsense peddled by people who’ve never fought a current in their lives.

First, biology check: Actual living fish follow flows daily. Salmon battle currents to spawn. Tuna ride ocean streams to hunt. Even goldfish circle thoughtfully in their bowls. The only fish drifting mindlessly? The dead ones. So congratulations—your mantra isn’t profound; it’s a literal description of carcasses. Want life advice from floating rot? Be my guest.

But the real insult? The hypocrisy. The same blowhards barking "don’t follow the flow!” are obsessed with trends. They chase viral...

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People Who Say “Let’s Circle Back” in Every Meeting

People Who Say “Let’s Circle Back” in Every Meeting

We need to talk about the verbal parasites sucking the lifeblood out of productivity: the “Let’s Circle Back” brigade. You know them. You’ve sat across from them in soul-crushing Zoom calls or fluorescent-lit conference rooms. They deploy this hollow phrase like a linguistic shield against progress, a smug incantation to disguise their unpreparedness or indifference. It’s corporate cowardice masquerading as collaboration.

Here’s the truth: “Let’s circle back” is rarely about strategy. It’s a power play. It’s the sound of someone realizing they haven’t read the pre-read, understood the data, or formed a coherent thought. Instead of admitting, “I’m lost,” or “This is irrelevant,” they punt responsibility into the nebulous future with faux-professional flair. It’s a conversational cul-de-sac disguised as a scenic route.

Worse? It...

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People Who Say “Correct Me If I’m Wrong” in Every Meeting

People Who Say “Correct Me If I’m Wrong” in Every Meeting

Let’s address the verbal tic masquerading as humility: the compulsive “Correct me if I’m wrong” crew. These meeting saboteurs deploy this phrase like a rhetorical sleight-of-hand—a false flag of openness disguising either arrogance, insecurity, or intellectual laziness. It’s not curiosity; it’s cowardice wrapped in corporate-speak.

Hear it once? Fine. But when every third sentence begins with this sanctimonious preamble, it’s psychological warfare. They’re not inviting correction—they’re preemptively inoculating themselves against accountability. If challenged, they retreat behind, “Well, I asked for feedback!” while subtly implying dissenters are pedantic bullies. It’s a power play disguised as politeness.

Worse, it derails momentum. Just as the conversation gains traction—BAM—we’re yanked into a performative detour to...

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Why Everyone’s a Self-Proclaimed “Expert” on Social Media

Why Everyone’s a Self-Proclaimed “Expert” on Social Media

Scroll for five minutes and you’ll witness an epidemic of arrogance: keyboard warriors morphing into overnight specialists in geopolitics, virology, nutrition, or quantum physics. One viral video, one cherry-picked article, one echo chamber affirmation — and suddenly, they’re lecturing the world with the smug certainty of a tenured professor. It’s a circus of confidence divorced entirely from competence.

What fuels this? The democratization of ignorance. Social media platforms reward loudness, not accuracy. Algorithms prioritize outrage, not nuance. A catchy hot take gains more traction than a peer-reviewed study. A slick graphic oversimplifying complex issues gets shared thousands of times while actual experts drown in the noise. The barrier to entry isn’t expertise — it’s audacity.

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Why Do People Leave Shopping Carts in the Middle of Parking Lots?

Why Do People Leave Shopping Carts in the Middle of Parking Lots

It’s a scene repeated daily: shopping carts abandoned like shipwrecks in parking lot seas, blocking spaces, scraping car doors, and creating hazards. Why does this happen? Laziness is the easy answer, but it’s rarely that simple. This small act of neglect reveals deeper threads in our social fabric.

For some, it’s pure thoughtlessness – a rushed distraction, kids in tow, or simply not registering the cart as their responsibility once paid. Others operate under the assumption that “it’s someone’s job” to collect them, outsourcing the effort without a second thought. The anonymity of the parking lot plays a role too; without direct social pressure, the incentive to do the right thing weakens. There’s also a subtle element of learned helplessness: “Everyone else does it, so why shouldn’t I?”

But the abandoned cart is more...

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Why We Judge Others (And How to Stop)

Why We Judge Others (And How to Stop)

That quick assessment of a stranger’s outfit, the silent critique of a colleague’s presentation, the internal commentary on a friend’s life choices – judging others is a near-universal human habit. It often feels automatic, almost instinctive. But why do we do it, and what toll does it take? More importantly, how can we cultivate a more compassionate and less judgmental mindset?

The roots of judgment run deep, often stemming from primitive needs. Evolutionarily, quick assessments helped us discern friend from foe, ensuring survival. While less life-threatening now, this rapid categorization persists. Cognitive efficiency also plays a role. Our brains crave shortcuts. Slotting someone into a category (based on appearance, accent, or behavior) is faster than understanding their complex, individual story. Judgment simplifies a complicated world.

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Understanding Herd Mentality in Crowd Behavior

Understanding Herd Mentality in Crowd Behavior

Ever followed a crowd down a street without knowing why? Or felt a sudden surge of panic in a packed space simply because others started running? This powerful, often unconscious force is herd mentality – the tendency for individuals in groups to adopt the behaviors, emotions, and decisions of the majority, often overriding their own judgment or instincts. It’s a fundamental aspect of human social behavior, deeply rooted in our evolutionary past, that shapes everything from stock market bubbles to protest movements and emergency evacuations.

At its core, herd mentality stems from primal instincts. For our ancestors, sticking close to the group meant safety from predators and increased access to resources. Deviating could mean death. This deep-seated drive for belonging and safety persists. In ambiguous or high-stakes situations...

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Recognizing Red Flags: Signs of a Bad Customer

Recognizing Red Flags: Signs of a Bad Customer

In business, not every customer is a good fit. While most clients bring mutual benefit, some can drain time, energy, and resources. Spotting the warning signs early can save a company from costly headaches.

One clear red flag is unrealistic expectations. Some customers demand miracles—impossible deadlines, steep discounts, or outcomes that defy industry norms. They often dismiss expertise, assuming their vision trumps practical constraints. This sets the stage for frustration on both sides. Similarly, poor communication raises concerns. Vague instructions, ignored emails, or aggressive tones signal trouble. A customer who can’t articulate needs or lashes out creates unnecessary hurdles.

Disrespectful behavior is another telltale sign. Whether it’s belittling staff, acting entitled, or disregarding agreed processes, such conduct erodes...

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The Importance of Setting Boundaries on Social Media

The Importance of Setting Boundaries on Social Media

We carry the world in our pockets, constantly connected, perpetually updated. Social media offers undeniable value – connection, information, inspiration. Yet, without clear boundaries, this constant stream can easily become a source of exhaustion, anxiety, and fractured focus. Protecting your mental space online isn’t antisocial; it’s essential self-care in the digital age.

Think of your attention and emotional energy as finite resources. Social media platforms, designed to captivate, constantly compete for these precious commodities. Endless scrolling, the pressure to react, the curated perfection bombarding us, the divisive arguments, the fear of missing out (FOMO) – it’s a relentless current. Without boundaries, we become porous, letting this digital tide dictate our mood, drain our time, and fragment our focus. We check...

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The Importance of Setting Personal Boundaries

The Importance of Setting Personal Boundaries

Imagine constantly saying “yes” when you mean “no,” feeling perpetually drained, or resenting obligations you never truly chose. This exhaustion is often the price of weak or non-existent personal boundaries. Boundaries – those clear lines defining what is acceptable and unacceptable in how others treat you and what you demand of yourself – aren’t walls of isolation. They are the essential infrastructure for healthy relationships, self-respect, and genuine well-being.

At their core, boundaries communicate your values and limits. They say, “This is where I end, and you begin.” Without them, we become porous. The needs, demands, and emotions of others flood in unchecked, leaving us feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and depleted. We sacrifice our time, energy, and peace on the altar of perceived obligation or fear of conflict. The result...

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